How I love thee?  Let me count the ways!

In the movie Dumb and Dumber Lloyd, played by Jim Carrey, asks Mary his love interest. “What are the chances of a guy like you and a girl like me…ending up together?

Mary: Not good.

Lloyd: You mean, not good like one out of a hundred?

Mary: I’d say more like one out of a million.

Lloyd: So you’re telling me there’s a chance. 

It doesn’t matter how far you travel around the world the questions of love, commitment, and marriage are on everyone’s mind.  If you listen you will begin to see that the topic of romance and relationship permeates our lives.  Love is being sung about through the airwaves and shown in the movie theaters. You can find it in secret notes passed in high-school hallways or scratched into the side of aspen trees. We put on perfume, write poems and go dancing after countless hours primping all with the hope of finding love. 

Why do we act so silly and chase so hard after this crazy thing called love?  Three descriptions of what love can be may help give some direction into our motivations.

Friendship. This is the foundation of any great love story. We are not meant to live a solitary life without connection to others.  Finding a best friend brings a level of platonic love to our life.  This looks like someone who just gets you and appreciates your unique qualities. 

Partner.  We need a helpmate to navigate life’s tumultuous waters.  Life necessitates having someone to cry and laugh with. When your spouse plays on your team and you on theirs you can’t lose.  This person becomes your biggest fan and wants to build you up and help you reach your dreams.   Partners are looking out for the best of the other person.  This is so important in creating a healthy families and marriages. 

Romance.  This seems to be the most obvious at first glance but probably the most challenging to keep alive long-term.  We need romance and sparks of passion to keep our hearts and minds connected as one.  Romance is the beginning point of soulful communication.  This seems silly and out of character at times but is so necessary if we want love to draw us together as we travel through life’s journey.

We are made to live in relationship.  We have been designed with the capacity to both give and receive love.  This can look many different ways but starts with two people giving one-another serious promises of commitment without reservation.  These commitments that are made before God and others are sacred and should be guarded as treasure.  Because of the value this love holds we should take time to learn how to work out our weak areas and increase our strengths.  My hope is that your proposal, engagement, wedding and marriage will grow into a testimony of love that is built upon a foundation of friendship, and a committed partnership and fueled by an inferno of romance that never burns out.


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