It’s Not Your Party!

Guests Behaving Badly…


The bride and groom have carefully planned their dream reception.  Sometimes, however, a guest can unwittingly make it a nightmare.  The following are examples of how a well-intentioned guest can blemish an otherwise wonderful wedding celebration:


Lengthy, Impromptu Toasts  “Hey, gimme the mike.”  A DJ cringes when he hears this.  The guest has heard a witty, well-prepared toast by the best man and now feels compelled to share his stories of the newlyweds.  The proceedings come to a halt to hear what often turns into a rambling recollection of inebriated memories.  “And hey, remember that time…”  The bride and groom nod politely, nervously waiting and praying for him to finish.  It becomes even worse when someone else now feels that they too must add in their two cents, cheapening what had been an elegant affair.


“Scary”oke  “Hey, gimme the mike.”  (Here we go again.)  “Why?” the DJ asks.  “I wanna sing along to this song.”  This could work if the person knows how to sing.  Most likely, however, he is off-key, shouting the lyrics, forgetting the lyrics, and irritating the dancers who much prefer to enjoy the original artist.  If you want to sing along, do it without the microphone.  Imperfections amplified hurt the ears and the festivities.


Self-appointed Music Experts  “You gotta play the Macarena now!”  The DJ explains that this song is on the bride and groom’s list of tunes NOT to be played.  “Oh, they don’t know what they’re talking  about,” is often the reply.  To attempt to supercede the requests of the bride & groom with a personal agenda is disrespectful of the couple’s wishes for their own wedding.


Guest Becomes an Instant Wedding Coordinator  “Hey, we gotta do a Dollar Dance for them.”  Well if the bride and groom have specifically requested NO Dollar Dance, then “NO, we don’t have to have a Dollar Dance.”  A Dollar Dance or Money Dance is where guests pay a dollar or more to dance with the bride or groom.  No one else dances except the bride, groom, and the guests who have paid to dance.  There are only four dancers at one time.  Although this can work well if already scheduled on the itinerary, an unplanned Dollar Dance can throw a wrench into the works by taking as much as twenty or more minutes of time that could have been used for everyone to dance and have fun.


These are just a few examples of guests behaving badly.


For the solution, Aretha Franklin spells it out R-E-S-P-E-C-T.  It is simply a matter of respect for the desires of the bride and groom for their own wedding reception.  You do know what it means to them.  You are the good guest.


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