Eight Common Mistakes

Congratulations on your recent engagement!  As you’re enjoying the glow and excitement of your new commitment to each other, consider the nine most common mistakes made by recently engaged couples so that you can plan for the perfect wedding while minimizing your stress, frustration, and disappointment. 


Not taking the time to envision the details of your wedding.  When will the big day happen?  Where should it be?  Who will be there?  How formal will the event be?  Planning a wedding takes time and often involves quite a few people.  If you’re uncertain of what you want, it may turn out differently from your dreams. 


Neglecting to decide on a budget and keeping track of your expenditures.  There are literally endless options to a wedding and unfortunately, how elaborate it will be comes down to how much money you are willing to spend.  Many brides begin this process without having a budget in place.  Very quickly they realize that all of their money (or their parent’s money) is spent and they don’t even have half of what is going to be needed.  It is critical that you begin with a dollar amount in mind.  


Forgetting to create a wedding timeline and take action on the details.  Get or create your own calendar or date book so you can set specific dates by which you want to get things accomplished.  Ask wedding vendors when things need to be set in order to be ready for your wedding day. 


Waiting too long to order your wedding dress or bridesmaid dresses.  Bride’s and Modern Bride magazine both agree that you should purchase your wedding dress at least 10 months to a year before your wedding.  Many brides immediately pick colors for their wedding and then find it very difficult to locate dresses in those colors.  Determine what you are looking for early and spend time in full-service bridal shops who can give you the attention and service you deserve.


Trying to do it alone.  Once you have completed your timeline, you should split up the tasks that need to be completed.  Both of you should be involved in the planning of the wedding.  Your mother and bridesmaids can also offer invaluable assistance in the planning and doing.  Once each task has been completed, check it off together so you don’t end up doing the same thing twice!


Not scheduling enough time to work on your wedding details.  Many brides find it very helpful to set up a specific day of the week when they’ll focus on their wedding plans.  If your engagement is not as long, you may want to spend a couple of days each week or plan several weekends where you can focus on what needs to be done.  Set up regular meetings with everyone involved to discuss what still needs to be done. 


Forgetting how many people you can accommodate at your reception site.  As you put together your guest list, think about how many people you’ll be able to accommodate for your ceremony and reception site.  Your mother and father may want to invite additional friends and family.  Be considerate of such requests, especially if they are helping to cover the wedding expenses. 


Forgetting to take time to relax.  If you find yourself getting stressed out, take some time to recuperate.  Spend a day completely away from the planning.  Make sure you spend time together and take care of each other in the process of planning your wedding.


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